Recently i had a chat with a friend, he mentioned to me : " yea, my friends do have comments about me and i think their only comment is "you are outdated, please do something about it."." Normally, if we hear this statement, we would think it's a normal comment that friends would give to a person. But then, the message my friend wanted to convey here is his friends always tell him "you are outdated, please do something about it." instead of " you are outdated, you can check out on the websites or this and that books about the issue, then i am sure you will understand what we are talking about.".
did you get what i am trying to say? yea, what i am trying to say is sometimes we comment just for the sake of commenting, giving advices for the sake of advising and listen for the sake of listening. we don't give details, and least we want to do anything to help the person. The best would be the next time we talked to the person he/she would have things figured out. We don't care about how or when, but we wanted the outcome.
The principle is clear. It's time for us to be the doer, not the talker. In the bible it is stated clearly, " be the doer of the Word." . universally, any comments or statement without action is dead. talking about spending time with a person, if you don't purposely spare your time out and go out with the person, in the end you are not spending time with the person regardless of how many hours you chat with the person online. samewise, if you love a person, but you don't bother to meet and do some activities together or go out spending time together, in the end your love is vague without any practical actions. you can talk until the phone explodes or you can chat online until the computer jams, with no actions, in the end it just shows you don't care or love the person at all.
If you really care and concern for a person, you don't just listen, you do something about it even though you know it might not help. But it shows that you care, you are worried and that person is important to you. A simple sms, a call(when is the last time u call a person besides your family and you lover?), a card, an email, or even a simple personal message online.
Some people they chose to walk away quietly instead of telling you how they feel, especially the friends that you said you feel dear with, in fact most people do that. so, just some advices, before realising your friends are leaving you one by one, it's better to do something about it. Don't just talk, act it out. it's a very simple truth, but not many people are actually practising it. If you think you are doing it,think twice, it might just show that you are not practising it.
there's one saying,: "if you think you are humble, you are actually proud; if you think you are passionate, you are actually heartless; if you think you are patient, you are actually short tempered. " In short, you might not be who you think you are. :)
Speak about thinking, some friends of mine said, "come on, don't think so much, let it go, be happy and enjoy life!". well, is it true? you let it go then you will be happier and enjoy life more? or is it letting go can cause more destruction to others and bring construction to yourself? In the end, the person who says this is still selfish; in order to make yourself happy, you disregard other people's situations. Think about that.
p/s: these are just some reflections after observing some people's attitude, there's nothing i would like to achieve through this post. peace. :)
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